Thursday, November 5, 2009
Filters
Duck's theory does make sense to me. His realtional disssolution model is very relevant. Each phase is something that I can relate to. Especially the grave dressing phase. This is the phase in which each party evaluates what the relationship meant to them. They break down the things that went right and the things that went wrong. I do think they should change the name of this stage to the reflection phase. There are a few characteristics and behaviors that lead me to judge someone as unattractive. The worst is when a girl has a bad attitude/rude. Also when a girl likes to gossip about other people, that is also something that is unattractive. There are always people that I eliminate by using sociological and pre-interaction cues that I later reconsidered. When I first met the secretary at my work her nonverbal behavior made me think that she was a rude person. Then as I started to see and interact with her more i noticed some cognitive cues. It turned out that she is sarcastic and she seemed close to her family. As I noticed these things about her it made me rethink my opinion of her. Also when I see someone that points at people I automatically think that I am not going to like that person. I dont know if that is wierd but it is true.
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I totally argree with this due to the fact we do as human beings use behavioral cues on how we will have a relationship. It could be the persons mannerism or just their personality that turns us away from the person in question. I had this co-worker named Maria. She was a 60 year old lady, but by the way she came in you could tell that she was in a bad mood. She looked angry, wouldnt say "hi" to anyone. Just be her body language i knew not to get in her way. Thats one of the great thing about body language. It tells you when something is not right.
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